I. THOU SHALT NOT WINK AT HER
Winking at a
prospective match, or adding her to your “favorites” list, is a sweet gesture
in theory—it’s supposed to indicate that you think the girl is cute or
interesting. But it’s also lazy as hell and puts the burden on the woman to
actually initiate contact. So do this instead: Send a message. Start with a
friendly or humorous opening. Comment on one or several things she mentioned in
her profile. Ask her a question about one of them, to give her extra incentive
to write back. Include some information about yourself. And sign off kindly,
ideally with your real first name.
II. THOU SHALT NOT USE THINE I PHONE TO TAKE THY PROFILE
PICTURE
The first step to
snapping your profile pic is choosing your equipment wisely, which means
ditching your phone. Lenses on cell-phone cameras tend to be very wide—so if
your face is too close, there could be some distortion. That’s why digital
cameras are ideal.
III. THOU SHALT NOT BOAST ABOUT THINE ACCOMPLISHMENTS
In a 2011 study on
online dating profiles from Villanova
University, one man’s
profile that was rated attractive by evaluators stated the ability to make “a
pretty mean cheesecake.” While unabashedly saying how wonderful you are is not
the way to go, having and conveying self-esteem by sharing the things you
genuinely enjoy is effective in appearing confident and happy with yourself,
explains lead researcher Rebecca Brand, Ph.D., a professor at Villanova.
IV. THOU SHALT NOT EMBELLISH FACTS ABOUT THYSELF
When you’re creating
your profile, don’t exaggerate. “Allow your profile to reflect who you really
are, not who you wish you were,” says Jackie Black, Ph.D., relationship expert,
and author of Meeting Your Match: Cracking the Code to Successful
Relationships. Similarly, be upfront about your likes and dislikes, she says.
Sure, this will weed out some candidates—but it’ll save you time in the long
run.
V. THOU SHALT NOT BE A TOTAL DRAG
Need to fill out some
more details? Flex your funny bone. In the Villanova study, profiles with
humor—one guy specifically said that he liked to poke fun at people and
expected the same in return—were deemed more attractive as they appeared more
masculine. A sense of humor has also been proposed to indicate good
genes—which, hello—is essentially what she’s looking for.
VI. REMEMBER THE COLOR RED, AND KEEP IT HOLY
Back to the profile
photo: Catch her eye with red. The
color, usually found on alpha males in the animal world, not only conveys
power, but also evokes feelings of love. According to a study in the Journal of
Experimental Psychology, women are more attracted to dudes in red than any
other color, finding them more attractive, powerful, and sexually desirable.
Use a photo with a simple touch of red—a tie or a deep red button up under a
blazer—to get her attention.
VII. THOU SHALT NOT WAIT AROUND ON THINE ASS
Don’t wait for her to
make the first move—the onus is on you to send that initial message. “Pick out a
detail from her profile and explain why it caught your eye,” says Black. “This
shows that you’re really interested and more importantly, it gives you
something to bond over in future messages.”
VIII. THOU SHALT NOT DIVE INTO THE DEEP STUFF
In a study at Capella University, online daters felt like they
were seeing an old friend on their first date—but that familiarity can
backfire, experts say. “Talking online could give you a false indication of how
well you know your date,” says Black. Don’t be tricked into divulging too much
information, she advises. “The more you disclose, the closer you become to the
other person, which makes it easier to get hurt.” Be honest about your wants
and interests but wait until you trust the person before diving into the deep
stuff.
IX. THOU SHALT NOT GET WEIRD AFTER GETTING REJECTED
If a woman doesn’t
respond to your message, don’t take it personally. And, more importantly, don’t
send her an angry, spite-filled, follow-up message demanding an explanation or
apology, because you somehow feel she owes you one. She doesn’t. If she hasn’t
responded at all to your first message, consider it a lost cause and find
someone else to pursue.
X. THOU SHALT NOT KEEP THY PROFILE ONCE THOU ENTER
EXCLUSIVITY
Once things become
official with her, don’t forget to delete your profile. And if your partner
doesn’t, you should question her commitment, says Black. “The only reason to
keep your profile active is if you’re still looking.” Besides, you can always
reactivate it if it doesn’t work out.
by Andrew Daniels men's Health Magazine
When it comes to beauty, style, and elegance, Ukrainian
women have a classification of their own. Visit dating sites and you’ll
discover varied samples of Ukrainian women who can be your friend, cohort,
lover, or just about anybody in between. Ukrainian women are just like Russian
women. They’re very the same in almost all ways and form. 
