Four simple tips to help your Ukrainian wife to integrate into the Western culture

You have a found a special woman from Ukraine, you got married to her and your Ukrainian spouse arrived in your Western native country.  And what now?

 

From my experience, I can say you that most of the problems in a Ukrainian-Western relationship and marriage come after your woman moved to your country. Very usually, the woman feels lonely in her new country, she does not speak the language of her husband, and she has no friends with whom she could talk. I am a Ukrainian woman who lives in Germany about 9 years and I have to mention that the first two years in the new country are the most difficult for immigrants.

 

I have a lot of female friends from Ukraine and Russia here in Germany. From their personal experience, I can say you that Ukrainian and Russian women integrate very differently, and their integration into the new culture and society depends on various factors such as what their support structure is like, how many other Russians and Ukrainians are in their region, how helpful and tolerant their Western husbands are, their foreign language speaking ability, etc.

Here are my four tips that coach you how to help your wife from Ukraine to integrate into her new country:

 

Tip #1: show a lot of patience, understanding and tolerance

 

Nine years ago, I experienced a “culture shock”, namely the German culture was too different than the Ukrainian one. Furthermore, the fact that you are alone in your new homeland (no family, no friends) does not make you happy.

 

Western men must be aware that their Ukrainian wife could be unhappy and miss her country, family and friends desperately (possibly within the first few months). You should be very patient with your Ukrainian spouse during this “loneliness” period. If she feels that her partner loves her and cares of her, the first period passes quickly. The emotional and psychological support is a very important part of your wife’s integration.

 

Tip #2: support your wife’s communication with her Ukrainian family

 

Another tip to support your woman is to give her an opportunity to call her family and friends in Ukraine. In my opinion, it helps to integrate into the new Western culture and society because your wife does not feel lonely and depressed if she sufficiently communicates with the persons she loves. As you know, Ukrainian women have strong traditional family values; therefore the communication with the family in Ukraine is an important part of our culture.

 

Moreover, the family often plays a significant role in the life of your immigrant wife and perhaps still has the ability to impact her – that means for you that if the Ukrainian family knows that the woman is happy and feels comfortable in your native country they will motivate and encourage your Ukrainian spouse to integrate into the new Western life more quickly and learn first of all the language of the new motherland. Do not think that phone calls to Ukraine are too expensive! You can buy calling cards – so telephone rates through them are really low to Ukraine.

 

 

Tip #3: help your wife to become familiar with the language of your country

 

I am sure that learning the language of the new native country (English, German, French or Italian) is a very important step in an immigrant wife’s adjustment to the Western culture. From my experience, I can say that if you do not speak the language of your new homeland you will not integrate into the West. No language – no integration! I think it would help if you learn Russian or Ukrainian a little bit to show your wife that you are motivated to learn her language too.

Most of the Ukrainian women who arrive in the Western world understand that language knowledge gives them the feeling of comfort and the ability to express her feelings and thoughts. Therefore, I have experienced in Germany and Italy (I lived there three months four years ago) that women from Russia and Ukraine improve their foreign language competence within just a few months.

 

So you need to speak with her in your language, explain grammar rules and correct her if she makes any mistakes. In addition, I would recommend you enrolling your Ukrainian spouse in a language school for adults after she arrives in her new country. The woman will be able to make some new friends there who share the common experience of immigrating to the West and learning the foreign language. For example, I met Olga, one of my best friends, in my German class for immigrants. The woman is more comfortable adjusted to her new environment because she has sufficient communication with other people (not only with her partner).

 

One more thing… it is really helpful if your woman starts to learn the foreign language in Ukraine. In my case, I did study German for one year before I arrived in Germany. I did not experience this trouble: “throw me in the cold water and ask me to swim”. Of course, I had some difficulties with German but I was able to communicate and enjoy socializing with the German-speaking people.

 

So I would recommend you without doubt to pay for your woman to study your language in Ukraine before she immigrates (if she cannot pay by herself). Foreign language classes are not expensive in Ukraine: the English class in Ukraine costs about $100 per month. I am rather sure that it is an advisable investment of a few hundred dollars/Euros in exchange for barrier-free and easy communication with your Ukrainian woman.

 

Tip #4: allow your wife to communicate with Russian and Ukrainian women

 

Some Western men suppose that the best way for their immigrant wife to integrate into the new culture is to be connected only to their native country people. But this idea is not correct. Of course, that is very important to communicate with the Westerners in order to integrate into the new country more quickly and effectively.

 

However, communication with Russian and Ukrainian women in the new country is very important, as well. If your immigrant spouse has several good friends with whom she is able to share her experience of immigrating, integrating and new life in the West, she will not miss her friends in Ukraine very strongly and feel not lonely in her new country anymore.

 

I would absolutely recommend you to allow her make some good Russian/Ukrainian-speaking friends in your area. So the woman communicates with somebody who is able to understand her from her Ukrainian/Russian cultural female perspective.

 

 I hope these tips will be helpful to you!

 

Thinking Twice Before Marrying Your Ukrainian Bride?

 


Russian and Ukrainian women are loving and romantic but you have a lot to learn before you get into a long-term relationship with her. You might find making her your bride challenging, but it is worth the effort. You might take sometime to win her heart, and while you are at it, you must pay attention and be sensitive to her pride and honesty in addition to her language and traditions.

 

Ukrainians are warm, and they are jovial. Ukraine women are not far behind. These women  have a natural charm, and they can make anyone fall in love with them.

 

Russian women are usually emotional by nature. They usually look for exact matches, but they also know that love is not enough. They have many dreams, and they know that a romantic relationship with someone is not enough to fulfill these. They look for support and security in marriage, such as a large house and enough to support their style of living without any hitch.

 

People who are looking for a Ukrainian bride should keep in mind that the Russian people in general are proud and Ukrainian women in particular have a high self-esteem. Men who want to share their life with a special woman from Ukraine should know that it will not be easy to adapt to the new habits they need to form to get through their daily life. Women who are ready to leave their family and start a new life with a man who is basically a stranger to them, also have requirements and sometimes they are more than what was expected.

 

These requirements can be met, and any sort of misunderstanding between the two can actually be resolved. Ukrainian Brides prefer men who are honest and men who can share even the deepest of secrets with them, and not just the happy moments.

 

It might sound easy, finding a foreign bride, but, considering all the above mentioned points, it is going to be hard, and might cause some uneasiness in the relationship at a later stage. Before you decide to marry, one must sit down and analyze all the pros and cons that are involved in marrying a Russian Woman. The Ukrainian Woman respects their tradition a lot, so it is necessary for you to learn it properly.

 

Taking Russian lessons is the best way of breaking the language barrier between you and your Ukrainian bride. You might also want to study some of their customs in order to understand a typical Russian woman's psychology. This will ease the cultural shock you might experience as your relationship progresses. Doing this not only improves your knowledge regarding Russian women, but also decreases the pressure that they feel in order to fulfill your dream of an ideal Russian bride.

 

If you do not have enough time to spare, you have the option of hiring a matchmaker or an agency that deals with foreign marriages. These people will have complete knowledge regarding traditions and culture and can be of immense help when it comes to overcoming legal barriers. They can also brief you on the etiquette that you must follow when you meet the bride and her family members.

 

Just listen to your heart. Make sure you have true feelings toward your Ukrainian bride, and be sure that she is having these same feelings

Ukrainian and Russian Women Dating Tips

Any men interested in searching for a Ukrainian dating site only need search Google, and you will find a huge selection to c house from. Site after site after site that is devoted exclusively to helping men find, date and, in some cases marry Russian or Ukrainian women. Over the last two decades with the demise of the iron curtain the Russian and Ukrainian brides' phenomenon has gone from strength to strength.

 

There are several reasons why it has become so popular for Western men to search for Russian and Ukrainian women to marry, many western men have become disillusioned with western women who over the last decade have become more career minded often leaving the family matters to last. There is also the matter that eastern European women are extremely beautiful and exotic compared to their western counterparts, it is a well-known fact that Russian and Ukrainian women are amongst the most beautiful in the world. On the female side, Russian women tend to be responsible people, and are looking for that same dedication to responsibility that seems to exist more in foreign gentlemen. They are interested in both financial stability and stability within any relationship, often the only way they can find this is through marriage with a foreign man...

 

When you decide to finally sign up to a Ukrainian dating site you should be very careful of a few points...

 

Charges. – Just like any business in any sector dating sites need to make money to survive, you should always take some time to see exactly what you will be charged for, many dating sites allow you to upload a free profile, with features such as flirting or sending a message of interest being free. Often you will have to pay a monthly subscription charge to use the full features of the site, including instant chat and emails, it is very important you use a legitimate Russian dating site that allows you to exchange contact information with other members online. Many sites allow you to chat and send mails, but they block any contact information, be very sure you do not sign up to a site like this...

 

 

Guarantees –No site,whether it be a mainstream dating site or Ukraine dating sites  can guarantee you will find your love online in their site, no one can say what  woman you choose to contact will be interested in you. The simple fact of the matter is it just doesn't work that way. On the legitimate sites, not only does the man have to be interested in the woman, but the woman also needs to be interested in the man. If you are a 65 year old gentleman and writing to young 25 year old women you certainly will not be guaranteed any results.

 

The most important thing about Perhaps the most important thing there is to remember when you are considering trying to form a relationship with a Russian woman online is to be open and honest with each other, to explain all your desires and wishes, tell her all about your family. Life and work, if you can create a good online relationship you will soon be ready to take the next step and plan a meeting in her country.
 

 

Best of luck in your Ukrainian Brides Search.

Your First Date With Your Ukrainian Lady

Spending a romantic time with someone special always leaves one in thrilled anticipation. The excitement is magnified twice as much in international dating where one meets a person from a foreign country. There is a Ukrainian saying that people determine what kind of a person you are by how you look and how you act, then at last they will be able to value you for your intellect. In short, first impressions matter a lot and having a working knowledge of the ways of Ukrainian dating will help you create a good first impression.

 

A lot of modern women, especially from Europe and the United States already shun the traditional dating practices. Ukrainian women, however are steadfast in keeping their dating traditions. Although Ukrainian ladies have largely become independent and financially capable, they still expect men to pursue and flatter them with their sweet and romantic ways. It would be helpful for you to know and understand a number of important Ukrainian dating courtesy practices.

 Your full understanding of the Ukrainian dating courtesytraditions will go well together with the expectations of your fiancé and will get your relationship off to a good start. For instance, you have invited your lady to a dinner date in a great restaurant. You will have to pick her up or if she prefers it, meet up with you in your hotel. Then you will go together to the restaurant. Of course, you are expected to cover all the expenses including transportation costs, whichever she chooses to take, the bus or a cab.

Indeed, you will soon know that paying for everything while you are on a date is one of the foremost Ukrainian dating courtesy practice. Take to heart the saying: you pray, I pay. This will help you remember what is expected of you. This practice should not diminish your regard for your fiancé, as this is not done because they are impoverished or avaricious, but rather this is the tradition they hold. If a man is gallant enough to court a lady, then his gallantry should extend to providing for all the cost relating to their date.

Next, she would always expect you to show your courtesy by opening up doors for her, by letting her enter facilities first or by offering her a hand when she goes out of a cab or public transportation. At the restaurant she would expect you to help her get seated by moving her chair, etc. All such things are essential for Ukrainian dating courtesy traditions, because even though Ukrainian ladies are considered to be smart and independent, they still like to be very feminine and with great pleasure receive all such male courtship.

 

 As I have pointed out earlier, it is expected of the man to pay for all consequent expenses on the date like costs at the restaurant, cinema or theater tickets, cab and bus, fare. A small gift as a token of the time she spent with you will also be proper. The kind and value of the gift would largely depend on the importance of the occasion you are celebrating. Flowers or chocolates and candies will be sufficient for a regular date.

 

There are some things you should also know about the Ukrainian beliefs about flowers. Bouquet of flowers for your fiancé should always come in odd numbers. Flower arrangements with even numbers are for the dead!

 

Furthermore, in Ukraine, yellow symbolizes goodbyes. If you give yellow flowers to a superstitious lady, she might take this as an omen that the relationship will not prosper. So unless it is your lady love's favorite color, then leave yellow flowers alone.

Top 10 Mistakes Men Make When Dating a Russian or Ukrainian Woman

1. Sending a woman money: This is a huge no-no. Any Russian or FSU (Former Soviet Union) woman who asks you for money is just trying to scam you. She will either bleed you until you are dry (if she is very slick) or just disappear after a quick score (if you are lucky). An honest woman would not ask; she has too much pride. Besides, she has already lived for 20+ years without your “help.” Why does she need you now? A Russian woman does not even consider the two of you to be in a “real” relationship until you have met in person! Would you give money to American girl that you had just met? Would you ask her for money? Think about it. It is just not smart and sets you up for trouble (and makes the ladies think it is easy and encourages more of the same behavior).

 

2. Not being prepared to visit: You did know that in order to bring her over here as a fiancée, you must visit her, in her country? Yes, it is the only way she will be able to get a visa to come to the USA. For more details on the visa and immigration process click here. Honestly, though, an FSU woman, if she is serious, will want to meet you. You must be ready and prepared to visit her at some point in the future. It has been my observation (by watching and talking with both western men and FSU women) that a woman will generally give you about 6 months to decide you will visit. Then a few more months for you to get yourself over there. Make her wait longer than this and she will think you are not serious and probably move on to someone she thinks is! Just be ready: emotionally, physically, and monetarily.

 

 

3. Falling in love with a photo: Do not place too much emphasis on her photo. At least not until you know more details about her and her photos. Perhaps they are old. I once had a woman tell me her photos were over 2 years old! Her hair color and style was changed and it looked like she had gained about 20 pounds! Know what? It was my fault, because I did not ask her! Generally, the women of the FSU look even better in person than in their photos—and that is a huge compliment! But not always, and you do not marry a photo, you marry a real person. Get to know her, what she thinks, how she thinks, her dreams, desires, passions, hobbies, etc… Try to understand (as they say in Russia) her inner world.

 

4. Focusing only on one woman: Bad idea. You may get lucky and find the woman you end up marrying right away. I do know some people that things worked out this way with. I also know some people who won the lottery! Do not bet on this happening. You need to get over the idea of being a gentleman. This is, in it’s most basic sense, a numbers game. I heard it said that only 4% of US-Russian relationships are successful. With that in mind you will have to date and meet 25 ladies on average before finding your wife. This was indeed true in my case. I met over 150 ladies in person, and actively dated around 30 of them. Hopefully you will not need to go through this many. If you hang around at my site, read my articles, manuals, and use my consulting services, I guarantee you a heck of a lot better results! Writing/dating only one woman at a time is a bad idea. If it doesn’t work out with her, than you are back at ground zero and have nothing. You have to start all over again. Not to mention the time that you have wasted, and the money if you actually took a trip to meet her in person. We all want to believe in love at first sight, but many times you look at someone and she looks at you and you know immediately it is just not going to work. Sure, sometimes it goes perfectly, but will you gamble 3-4 months of your life and several thousand dollars on a trip to Ukraine  just to find that out!? Most guys who are involved in this process (statistically speaking) are in their mid-upper 40’s…and most of the ladies are in their mid-upper 20’s. Do you have the time to waste? She probably does, but you need to be in contact with several women at any given time. Even if only for comparison purposes.

 

5. Not doing your proper research: By this I mean finding an honest and reliable dating or marriage agency, finding out all you can about your woman, learning about the geography, history, culture and language of the country she is from. These are all crucial to your success. You need to find an honest service. Then you need to educate yourself on other ways of contacting your woman. This will continue to ensure that your agency is honest, and that you are indeed writing to a real woman! Without doing your research you are just placing your bets (paying your money) and taking your chances.

 

 

6. Sending her the wrong photos: You do not need to send her photos of your house, car or other prized possession. If you do, I guarantee you will attract the wrong type of woman. An honest woman from the FSU is more concerned about your heart than she is about your possessions. If you focus on your money and things, she will probably assume you are a shallow and insecure person. Focusing on your possessions only seems to work on Western women, the most shallow and insecure women in the world! This is not America or another western country , you do not need to impress these ladies with things! Show them your sensitive side, what you like to do, how you think and feel.

 

7. Thinking she is just after a visa: Then again if you thought this way, would you really be interested in writing her in the first place? Unless you were just interested in a business relationship type of marriage. She wants love and respect, not a free ride to a western country ! Would you be interested in moving thousands of miles away from home, leaving all your family and friends, learning a new language, just to improve your standard of living? Neither does she. She does not want a savior, she wants a husband!

 

 

8. Thinking she will be your trophy wife: These ladies are tough as nails. They have to deal with drunk husbands/boyfriends who think nothing about going out and finding a mistress, don’t want to support their family (so she goes out to work), and generally most of the decisions and hard choices fall to the ladies. She will show you her claws if she thinks you are using her just as a “trophy wife.” Find someone to be your lover, wife, and equal partner, not someone you can dominate and control. For most men, I would say that even if they tried it would not be possible to control a Russian woman anyway—she is strong-willed and fiercely independent.

 

9. Not asking her questions: You are looking for a wife, not someone to just pass the time. Well, then again… Seriously, these are serious and honest women (for the most part) and they deserve the same respect. Besides, if you do not ask her questions to find out more about her, her family, dreams, goals, etc… she will sooner or later figure out that you are not serious. Then she will dump you, or just see what she can get out of you! If you are truly looking for a wife, you should be asking her all kinds of questions! Not only ask many different questions, but ask them several times in various ways, just to see if you get consistent answers (another good way to protect yourself from a scam).

 

 

10. Not having a back-up plan: This is a HUGE mistake! If you do eventually go over to the FSU, you never know what will happen  I do not care how many letters you have exchanged or how many phone calls you have made, once you see her in person, things will change. Maybe you both look at each other and decide it will not work. Your back-up plan will protect you in this case. I do not advise making a trip just for one woman (unless you have already met). Meet several. Try to have good relations with at least one of the local agencies in the city you will be visiting (being on good terms with 2 or more is even better). Know their address and phone numbers. Then, if things don’t work out, you will be able to contact the agency and meet other women.

Ukrainian Brides - Follow These Tips For A Home Run

If you get online and browse through all those Ukrainian online dating web sites with the photos of gorgeous Ukrainian brides, no doubt you would get a desire to start dating one of them (if not all)! However, even though these beautiful looking young Ukrainian ladies seem to be so available and willing to date any foreign men, in reality there is a rather severe competition between men who seek to win their hearts.

Tip 1: Find a reputable dating agency to work with.

It is very important to go slow when engaging into dating Ukrainian brides. The reason why I am saying this is that there are many websites and online dating agencies today, which do not provide their clients with high quality matchmaking services.

Some do not have any dating fraud protection programs. This means that when working with them you run risk of wasting your time, money and emotion on something or somebody not worth it. Thus, it is better to go slow and to find the best companies operating in the market to work with.

 

Tip 2: Building up a portfolio.

Creating a good portfolio can be crucial for your online dating success. Just think about how you select Ukrainian brides to correspond with. You judge them by their looks, age and by what they write about themselves and by how they present themselves.

The same is true about women. Ukrainian ladies have their own criteria they use for selecting men they wish to correspond with. Even though women use a bit different criteria than men, they still make their decisions about you upon your portfolio.

What you should know about portfolios is that the ones with photos attract more attention and get you more feedback than those without photos. Upload you photo, take the best you have, but do not give in to the temptation to upload a "younger" photo of yourself. You sure do not want to correspond with someone who looks much different from what they show you on their portfolio photos. The same is true about Ukrainian brides. They wish to see the real you and to base their decisions on true information.

 

Tip 3: Correspondence ideas.

First of all, when you only start dating Ukrainian brides online do not select just one lady, hoping that she would respond to your letters and turn out to be the one you are looking for. It is a quite common practice when both men and women correspond with more than one person; this way your chances would increase immensely.

Prepare a few good and catchy phrases or letter starters. Something that would catch the attention of the ladies you target at. In addition, put together your first introduction letter you will send to most of your new online acquaintances. This will allow you to save much time and frustration, because online dating can become a very time consuming pursuit.

Tips On Dating A Ukrainian Woman

Every year hundreds of Ukraine girls marry foreigners. Why do foreigners prefer dating a Ukraine girl to the women in their own country? The reasons are obvious to Ukraine girls. Ukrainian women combine beauty with intelligence, love and independence, as well as the ability to have a great career and be a fabulous housewife. They also have good taste, a sense of humor, a special gift to cook delicious meals, and the good education that makes them idea for marriage and dating.

 

Most foreigners become acquainted with Ukrainian women through Internet web sites. Dating a Ukraine girl means corresponding for up to several months before the first important meeting. How long should you send letters and correspond before meeting her? There is no definite rule, but dating a Ukraine woman over the Internet may last as little as 2 months or even up to a year. It just depends on many factors. Naturally a Ukrainian lady will expect you to come to meet her as soon as possible if you are writing her daily. If you have a vacation and no plans to do anything, they would love for you to make that first meeting with her then.

 

When you are dating a Ukraine girl, you should pay attention to how often she writes and how soon she answers your letters. What she writes about herself is important as well, because that will tell you how interested she is in you. If she writes just general information about herself then you should consider continuing the relationship through email and letters. However is she begs you to come to meet her immediately then you should consider the fact that something might be a little fishy.

 

It could be that the Ukrainian lady is up to something herself, but in other cases it might be the person who is translating messages that is asking you to come quickly. Often Ukrainian women will have a person translate their letters, and if the translator that works for the agency in which you met feels that it is important not to lose a client, they may insert information that the Ukrainian lady did not say. This could be that they want you to meet them. Unfortunately for the Ukrainian women you may show up when they are simply not ready to meet.

 

Although meeting in most cases is very welcome and usually the idea of the Ukrainian lady, but you both should be ready for it to happen. The general rule of thumb that most Ukraine women imagine is that you will meet off the website, correspond for a few months at least through email and letters, then move on to phone calls, visit with each other at least once for a few days to a week, and then finally end in marriage. When it comes to dating a Ukraine girl, all of these steps are equally important in the process.

 

How can you know for sure though that she is honest and serious? Here are two tips for you that will let you know. A Ukraine girl will never ask you for money or present. She wants you, not your money. She will also answer all of your questions honestly because if her intentions are serious, she has nothing to hide. However, she will expect you to be as honest as she was.

 

Ukrainian ladies are known to be sensitive and tactful with a priceless ability to understand and forgive. You shouldn't hide important facts such as if you are corresponding with other women at the same time. This is definitely the case if you are planning a trip where you want to meet all of them at the same time. If she learns it too late, then she will think she was just a pawn in your game, so you should be honest and upfront. Tell her that she may not be the right lady for you but do it with tact and respect and let her know that you have fun talking to her, but you are corresponding with another lady as well. When dating a Ukraine girl, the main thing is to be honest and make her feel that your intentions are serious.